Can I Get Married in 2021?
You’re newly engaged (YAY!) and trying to decide what year to plan your wedding for. TBH you really prefer the idea of getting married in 2021, but the question is can I get married in 2021?
The short answer is, yes you can.
But the follow-up question is, how can I get married in 2021?
With a raging pandemic that as of now shows limited signs of slowing down, ever-changing safety guidelines, a new Presidential Administration being sworn in in a matter of days, and whatever other fun things 2021 has in store for us, the question isn’t really a matter of possibility, it’s a matter of logistics & planning.
So, HOW do you get married in 2021?
We start by setting good expectations for ourselves. You have to KNOW what you’re getting yourself into. Know that there will likely be mask mandates, know that you’ll have to be flexible with changing guidelines. Know that it will look smaller than you may have envisioned. Know that you might have to get married on a Friday or Sunday or maybe even a Thursday. Know that while it’ll look different than you probably ever pictured, it can and will still be amazing & beautiful & special like all weddings always are. Know that the magic is not in the size or the pomp and circumstance, it’s in the love between you and your partner and in the love of those who can attend.
Next, we create plans A, B, C, D, and through Z if we need to. Who do you invite if we cap at 10 people? What about 25? 50? 75? 100? Write out those names in order of importance when you’re unemotional, so that when the emotions of whatever reality comes in July or October or whatever month you’re getting married in, you already have a pre-determined, logically decided game plan.
Then, we decide what’s going to bring us joy. Again, if you’re set on getting married in 2021, you need to know your WHY. Do you want something to fucking celebrate after a shithole year? Do you have a parent who’s ill and might not be around to see you get married next year? Do you want to start your family? Keeping your mind focused on the reasons behind your decision will help get you up and out of the feelings of loss that will naturally come with planning a wedding in “unprecedented times.”
If you don’t have your vendors booked, GET TO WORK. Postponements from 2020 are a mess and there are still couples, just like you, who want to get married this year, pandemic be damned. If you don’t have a venue, a caterer, photographer, etc. you need to get booking! This is not a sales technique, it’s not meant to push you into something you’re not ready for, it’s to protect you from getting 10K feet up and standing on the edge afraid to jump. If you want to get married in 2021, make that commitment confidently & get to planning.
Lastly, if you don’t have help yet, GET SOME. You need someone who’s not emotionally involved to help you make the tough decisions. Someone whose job is literally to be up to date on what’s legal. Someone who knows what creative solutions exist (ie. live streaming). Someone who can just be your person through what will undoubtedly be a complicated road. Besides just the planning realities, on the wedding day, your family and your guests DESERVE to not have to work. They’ve been cooped up forever and they’re going to do whatever they have to besides the normal wedding stuff of paying for a flight, buying a gift & a nice outfit, getting a hotel room, possibly taking time off of work. They’re also going to be quarantining, testing, vaccinating, whatever current safety guidelines require… just to be there for YOUR DAY. They deserve to be guests. And you deserve their full attention and the ability to be fully present in your role as guest of honor instead of playing busy host.
So yes, you CAN get married in 2021 and now, you have a road to how.